14 july - - - ~ the basis of a healthy life is a good relationship with oneself ^^^ vvv a good relationship with oneself is not about egoism & egocentrics, those are results of a distorted relationship with oneself vvv it's the "child distortion" which i would sum up currently under related 3 distortions of mind map, female, male & child distortion vvv egoism & egocentrism are the results of the child distorted relationship with oneself, which is about paternalism, negative paternalism vvv why "child distortion" : cause it's built up during the transition to a, what we call, adult human, who has to aim to be self reliable vvv unfortunately during the childhood we are not taught a good relationship with ourself, we are told to trust, especially parents vvv a healthy relationship with oneself, roots in a clear prioritizing of relationships, vvv on top level priority of relationships has to stand inalterably the relationship with oneself, it has to be the best relationship ever vvv the most people today have a heavily distorted relationship with themselves, vvv the more distorted the own relationship is & accompanied with other distortions, the less happy the life is & vvv the more problems are caused also within the society rooted within that distorted self relationship vvv why "child distortion" 2 : cause it's about the negative paternalism & vvv paternalism is about a certain sort of relationship between 2 individuums, a good explanation of that gives the transactional analysis vvv a healthy relationship takes place on the same level of value, a distorted is about paternalism, vvv either as undervalued child or overvalued "pater", the position of an undervalued child is therefore the negative paternalism, vvv the function of an undervalued child, of negative paternalism works as bent inwards, concave, lacking an inward upright presence vvv an own life based on negative paternalism is sensed by oneself as a feeling of inferiority, permanent & overall present vvv many of us develop during the life a compensation to that inferiority, as a superiority, which is called egoism & egocentrism vvv those are the basics, there is a lot more muddle about but negative paternalism is at the core of all current human problems vvv so, what is then a healthy relationship with oneself : 1. it's the top priority relationship vvv 2. it's not about trust, not about belief & not about hope, it's about decisions based on understanding or at least a good will vvv this "good will" is the same, which is the base of Nonviolent Communication, vvv it's the position, that every message sent & received results from a constructive tryout of a communication & not from an assault vvv it's of course easier said than done, especially faced with material violence it gets very problematic, but the basics are the same vvv take the actions & words of someone else towards you as a constructive although probably unsuccessful tryout of a communication vvv & the base communication is the communication with oneself, so take your actions & words said to yourself as a tryout of constructivity vvv that's all the basis theory, theory means here not unproved or incomplete, it means, that it's the principle, vvv which appears in every single life & every single human as different combination of solutions, actions, positions, views, results vvv lucky are those, who can extrapolate those principle words into their practice of life, vvv but you surely know, that you can still contact me if you need your more personal evaluation & explanation, currently still for free x x x @ @TheBuddhaWay : i apologize to have bothered you 100% = 49% + 51% = 49% + 21% + 30% - i think those 30% are, which have to know what to do, if they don't we all will go under vvv the 21% have to be able to follow those 30% based on the good will, the 49% can do as usual vvv those numbers are not the upper limit but the minimum limit, but maybe it's not 21/30 but 25/26, in the end it's just estimated number vvv strictly democratic, it's about the marginal majority vvv my current estimation : 5% know + 20% are of good will & 75% do whatever, so it seems to be not a projected success musing : i admire the patience of all the nonhumans among us, their patience with humans, vvv it's not that they don't care like humans, who skip impatience by lack of caring, by detachment, vvv nonhumans care deeply & allow & guaranty freedom for everyone, they are enganged & free, vvv not so humans, who are clingy to suffocation or detached like ignorance leila_c Leila C. 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Digital work is needed in Liberia: http://bit.ly/gIKPKX #givework FREE/no responsibilities as long there's no damage caused because of it, but mainly outsourcing responsibility vs PAID/accountable/suable vvv it's a problem, services cause costs, cause they exhaust values, values can be generated or bought, vvv generated values cost (TBQcT) transition between qualities called "time", bought values cost money, which is transformed TBQcT vvv bought values are already social, generated values not necessary, just if they lock into socially approved values (thus copies) vvv then there's a gap of recognizability built upon the social approved value, generated by it, vvv nothing is recognized as value as long it is not socially approved, vvv poor people, able merely dependent to value, value not along own values, but the colportaged values vvv so now meantime not just socially approved colportaged values, but also free, so uniform & free 'We are Google's product, not its customers' - monopolised | http://t.co/gLh7MqP via @ajenglish flith, ONLINE FILTH - entangled, embroiled (~1600 "throw into disorder" ~1610 "involve in a quarrel") - corruption, lobby vvv (v.lat. brodum, ger.brot, brauen, bier) (~1400 "quarrel") (broth, ger. brueten, bruehwarm) not accountable, not suable, avoiding, evasive but ignorable, forgettable - in any case irresponsible, without GUILT, guiltless, innocent innocent, un nascent, not native to smthng, not set, not biased - drifting on water without an oar / TTK moving as space quality through space qualities generates modulations, some are perceived constructive, some destructive, it's moving blind the manifold urge for achieving a goal, to press, to lure, to seduce, to trick, to veil as ignorance, as giving in, giving up some goals are harder to loosen than others, some root as deep as you've never been even if you've been as deep as no one before you it's hard to navigate between Scylla & Charybdis, between settle for less & pressing for more there is no escape of the trap of status quo, the own quality is nothing but a permanent striving for it, against the urge to die quietly when i look, i see suddenly what i don't see, all the blank spaces of nothing, where smthng ought to be Dirty Laundry | Unravelling the corporate connections to toxic water pollution in China | http://t.co/oEe8Sd0 @ RT @standupmaths : Name drop moment. "Zuckerberg closes off Google+ account so he can't be tracked" http://t.co/Kzv7TGK working currently a little on UNCERTAINTY i think, Shunryu Suzuki formulated UNCERTAINTY best as "NOT ALWAYS SO", vvv which can be linked to the FREEDOM FROM FREEDOM & that way to the "Kill the Buddha" principle vvv the hindu formulation "neti neti" is somewhat lacking since it points directly to freedom, vvv it is linked always to a negation & thus just as an exception negating itself & not as a principle vvv it may be uncommon to demand a principle of actions to be able not to act on the principle, but that's the core of uncertainty vvv westerners call such a demand "paradox" but paradoxes are nothing than a giving up before reaching a set goal, vvv which action can be directly linked to the negative paternalism @ RT @Greenpeace : GENETIC VANDALISM ! that's a great formulation | http://t.co/CUaiGDJ TheTransitioner TheTransitioner by reflectingarea RT @cheeky_geeky: If 90% of human communication =non-verbal, is that why I need 10 times as many conference calls to get my point across? :) TheTransitioner TheTransitioner by reflectingarea Genes create bodies. 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Memes create cultures.Time for a new planetary culture, a new set of memes based on conscious evolution @stephendinan 5 Jul Favorite Undo Retweet Reply » TheTransitioner TheTransitioner by reflectingarea RT @cheeky_geeky: If 90% of human communication =non-verbal, is that why I need 10 times as many conference calls to get my point across? :) 5 Jul Favorite Undo Retweet Reply » reflectingarea Ra @ RT @Greenpeace : GENETIC VANDALISM ! that's a great formulation | http://t.co/CUaiGDJ 14 Jul Unfavorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv which action can be directly linked to the negative paternalism 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv westerners call such a demand "paradox" but paradoxes are nothing than a giving up before reaching a set goal, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv it may be uncommon to demand a principle of actions to be able not to act on the principle, but that's the core of uncertainty 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv it is linked always to a negation & thus just as an exception negating itself & not as a principle 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the hindu formulation "neti neti" is somewhat lacking since it points directly to freedom, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv which can be linked to the FREEDOM FROM FREEDOM & that way to the "Kill the Buddha" principle 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra i think, Shunryu Suzuki formulated UNCERTAINTY best as "NOT ALWAYS SO", 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra working currently a little on UNCERTAINTY 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra @ RT @standupmaths : Name drop moment. "Zuckerberg closes off Google+ account so he can't be tracked" http://t.co/Kzv7TGK 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra Dirty Laundry | Unravelling the corporate connections to toxic water pollution in China | http://t.co/oEe8Sd0 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra when i look, i see suddenly what i don't see, all the blank spaces of nothing, where smthng ought to be 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra there is no escape of the trap of status quo, the own quality is nothing but a permanent striving for it, against the urge to die quietly 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra it's hard to navigate between Scylla & Charybdis, between settle for less & pressing for more 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra some goals are harder to loosen than others, some root as deep as you've never been even if you've been as deep as no one before you 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra the manifold urge for achieving a goal, to press, to lure, to seduce, to trick, to veil as ignorance, as giving in, giving up 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra moving as space quality through space qualities generates modulations, some are perceived constructive, some destructive, it's moving blind 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra innocent, un nascent, not native to smthng, not set, not biased - drifting on water without an oar / TTK 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra not accountable, not suable, avoiding, evasive but ignorable, forgettable - in any case irresponsible, without GUILT, guiltless, innocent 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv (v.lat. brodum, ger.brot, brauen, bier) (~1400 "quarrel") (broth, ger. brueten, bruehwarm) 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra flith, ONLINE FILTH - entangled, embroiled (~1600 "throw into disorder" ~1610 "involve in a quarrel") - corruption, lobby 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra 'We are Google's product, not its customers' - monopolised | http://t.co/gLh7MqP via @ajenglish 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv so now meantime not just socially approved colportaged values, but also free, so uniform & free 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv poor people, able merely dependent to value, value not along own values, but the colportaged values 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv nothing is recognized as value as long it is not socially approved, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv then there's a gap of recognizability built upon the social approved value, generated by it, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv bought values are already social, generated values not necessary, just if they lock into socially approved values (thus copies) 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv generated values cost (TBQcT) transition between qualities called "time", bought values cost money, which is transformed TBQcT 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv it's a problem, services cause costs, cause they exhaust values, values can be generated or bought, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra FREE/no responsibilities as long there's no damage caused because of it, but mainly outsourcing responsibility vs PAID/accountable/suable 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » leila_c Leila C. 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Digital work is needed in Liberia: http://bit.ly/gIKPKX #givework 10 Mar Favorite Undo Retweet Reply » reflectingarea Ra vvv not so humans, who are clingy to suffocation or detached like ignorance 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv nonhumans care deeply & allow & guaranty freedom for everyone, they are enganged & free, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv it's not that they don't care like humans, who skip impatience by lack of caring, by detachment, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra musing : i admire the patience of all the nonhumans among us, their patience with humans, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv my current estimation : 5% know + 20% are of good will & 75% do whatever, so it seems to be not a projected success 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv strictly democratic, it's about the marginal majority 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv those numbers are not the upper limit but the minimum limit, but maybe it's not 21/30 but 25/26, in the end it's just estimated number 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the 21% have to be able to follow those 30% based on the good will, the 49% can do as usual 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra 100% = 49% + 51% = 49% + 21% + 30% - i think those 30% are, which have to know what to do, if they don't we all will go under 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra @ @TheBuddhaWay : i apologize to have bothered you 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra x x x 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv but you surely know, that you can still contact me if you need your more personal evaluation & explanation, currently still for free 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv lucky are those, who can extrapolate those principle words into their practice of life, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv which appears in every single life & every single human as different combination of solutions, actions, positions, views, results 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv that's all the basis theory, theory means here not unproved or incomplete, it means, that it's the principle, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv & the base communication is the communication with oneself, so take your actions & words said to yourself as a tryout of constructivity 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv take the actions & words of someone else towards you as a constructive although probably unsuccessful tryout of a communication 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv it's of course easier said than done, especially faced with material violence it gets very problematic, but the basics are the same 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv it's the position, that every message sent & received results from a constructive tryout of a communication & not from an assault 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv this "good will" is the same, which is the base of Nonviolent Communication, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv 2. it's not about trust, not about belief & not about hope, it's about decisions based on understanding or at least a good will 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv so, what is then a healthy relationship with oneself : 1. it's the top priority relationship 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv those are the basics, there is a lot more muddle about but negative paternalism is at the core of all current human problems 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv many of us develop during the life a compensation to that inferiority, as a superiority, which is called egoism & egocentrism 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv an own life based on negative paternalism is sensed by oneself as a feeling of inferiority, permanent & overall present 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the function of an undervalued child, of negative paternalism works as bent inwards, concave, lacking an inward upright presence 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv either as undervalued child or overvalued "pater", the position of an undervalued child is therefore the negative paternalism, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv a healthy relationship takes place on the same level of value, a distorted is about paternalism, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv paternalism is about a certain sort of relationship between 2 individuums, a good explanation of that gives the transactional analysis 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv why "child distortion" 2 : cause it's about the negative paternalism & 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the more problems are caused also within the society rooted within that distorted self relationship 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the more distorted the own relationship is & accompanied with other distortions, the less happy the life is & 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv the most people today have a heavily distorted relationship with themselves, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv on top level priority of relationships has to stand inalterably the relationship with oneself, it has to be the best relationship ever 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete reflectingarea Ra vvv a healthy relationship with oneself, roots in a clear prioritizing of relationships, 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv unfortunately during the childhood we are not taught a good relationship with ourself, we are told to trust, especially parents 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv why "child distortion" : cause it's built up during the transition to a, what we call, adult human, who has to aim to be self reliable 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv egoism & egocentrism are the results of the child distorted relationship with oneself, which is about paternalism, negative paternalism 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv it's the "child distortion" which i would sum up currently under related 3 distortions of mind map, female, male & child distortion 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra vvv a good relationship with oneself is not about egoism & egocentrics, those are results of a distorted relationship with oneself 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra the basis of a healthy life is a good relationship with oneself ^^^ 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete » reflectingarea Ra ~ 14 Jul Favorite Reply Delete